Public Toilet


"I support breastfeeding...but...I don't need to see it."


I'l be honest, it's hard for me to hold back on the expletives when this phrase (and so many others like it) get thrown around with utter disregard for the impact that they have.  These words used to hit me square in the gut, but now, two and a half years into our breastfeeding journey, I can see the ignorance, mis-education and selfishness that comments like this rest within.


But as a new mother...it wasn't quite so clear-cut...

I remember sitting, squashed and repulsed, as I fed baby bean in the tiny and disgusting toilet cubicle. I remember blinking back the tears as I searched within myself for the strength to throw a smiling, two-finger salute to anybody who thought that this was an appropriate place for me to feed my child.


Now, I will nurse anywhere, but I didn't come to realise the power of my mama-stripes overnight.  I had to see the gutter to make the choice to leave it.  To make a stand; proud and determined that my daughter and I deserved more.


More.

More than germ-infested public restrooms.


More than a square-inch within which to move.


More than the smell of other people's faeces when feeding and nurturing my innocent bundle of love.


More.



I'm sure that most people would agree, but here's the clincher: without fully accepting breastfeeding, many mothers will inevitably feel condemned to feed their babies in public bathrooms.  Hidden from and shamed by society.  Without opening our eyes and seeing what this actually looks like in practice, I guess ignorance remains...


Introducing our visual saviours...our eye-openers...


Kris Haro and Johnathan Wenske, graphic design students at the University of North Texas, designed an ad campaign to protect mothers from harassment. These posters (see main picture) promote public awareness of the need to openly encourage breastfeeding acceptance...with no "But".

Kris and Johnathan approached Monica Young, 21, to be the face of this project.  Monica told me;  "I couldn't pass up the opportunity to be a part of this campaign.  I've heard more disturbing comments and received so many displeasing glances in the last four months than I have had my entire life!  I would love to nurse my son without putting my head down and since sitting for these pictures, I've proudly nursed wherever I please.  This project has inspired many people, but especially myself!"

My hope is that the storm raised by this project will open more hearts and eyes to the normalcy of breastfeeding, and with thousands of "likes" so far, this message will surely only gain momentum.


Imagine fuelling this movement with a new, un-caveated mantra: "I support breastfeeding".  And let's leave it at that.




Further details of the student's project can be found here.

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267 comments:

  1. Breast feeding is completely acceptable as long as your covered*** letting a child suck on boobs that are blatantly exposed is inappropriate! Ive seen many women cover their breast with a soft blanket and cover the babyd face so he isnt cold.. omg commen sense. This article is a little over dramatic.. people just dont want to see exposed women with children everywhere.

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    1. I am sorry but I will not cover my son while he is eating. Breastfeeding is beautiful and natural . Why should I cover ?? My son hates it

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    2. Because everyone should eat with a blanket on over their heads. How would you like to consume every bit of food with a blanket on your head? My daughter refuses to eat if she is covered. So get over it! They are designed to feed not be sex objects!!

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    3. Id rather see someone's boob than the way some adults eat. They're the ones who need a blanket over them.

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    4. Maybe you should take that blanket and cover your head.

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    5. Grow up. Only immature people make a big deal about a woman breastfeeding a child...covered or not.

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    6. I'm sure you would love to eat with a blanket over your head.

      "people just don't want to see exposed women with children everywhere.' Really? Cause that's what breastfeeding is to you. And I'm sure you feel the exact same way when you see a Victoria Secret ad or something similar.

      There is nothing inappropriate about breast feeding. And, if you cannot handle seeing it in public, I think you may be the one with the issues.

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    7. I ask you this... Would you want to eat with a blanket over your head?! Be real here and try to understand. I layer my clothing so I can appropriately breastfeed. But my layering is enough to cover my breast. But I NEVER look down on a single woman who will bear all. It's nourishing her child, this isn't sexual. So stop looking at it that way! Get educated.. you've obviously never walked in our shoes. Your the one who needs to GROW UP!!

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    8. If you don't want to see it, then don't look. There is no reason why a stranger's comfort would EVER be put before the comfort of my own child. You are the adult, so grow up. Breasts are meant to feed babies. Period.

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    9. My baby will not nurse under a cover. Get over yourself!

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    10. Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing and a bond between a mother and child...with that being said, it should be between a 'mother and a child', not full exposure to the public, especially perverts and strangers...there's this thing called 'respect' for your body, don't overexpose yourself just to prove a point. Go ahead and breastfeed, but keep in mind the society we live in, people with cell phone cameras that are ready to 'snap and share' at any moment..too many women use this as a reason to act 'strong'...if your wanting that bond, respect yourself and child and do it privately. - See more at: http://www.mamabeanparenting.com/2014/05/public-toilet.html?showComment=1399472623865#c4430090655542410123

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    11. You're an idiot, and you need to worry more about your grammar than how women feed their children.

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    12. I'm sure you have noooo problem with naked woman when they are in your bedroom however... so whats the big deal!!? It's cuz of ignorant loosers like YOU that this campaign is needed!! I'm a server, and I have seen plenty of woman feeding their little babies at the table, and never once have I made them feel uncomfortable about it, it's a natural thing, a HEALTHY thing, that every baby should indulge!!

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    13. Yes and until you try and feed a baby under a cover you can shove it. It gets about 100 degrees and requires all sorts of maneuvering and my baby won't do it and I don't blame him. I wouldn't want to eat in a sauna either. Grow up.

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    14. I tried to HIDE my first two children for fear for of offending others. RIDICULOUS. My son hated being covered. With our next I will nurse however is most comfortable for my child and I. To you and others who share your view - get over yourself. Boobs are for feeding our children. And breastfeeding is something no momma should ever feel ashamed about!

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    15. I breastfeed in public sometimes without a blanket but I manage to do it in a way that my breasts are covered and I'm not exposing too much skin. Breast feeding is beautiful but it doesn't mean you show the world.

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    16. Let's see, you post anonymously with a slew of grammar errors . . . maybe your mother should have fed you with a blanket over your head as you suggest we feed our children. If you walked in on me breastfeeding my child, you wouldn't even know what I was doing and I don't cover up. We live in America where there are multiple cultures involved and not every culture views breastfeeding as people do in America. I have and will feed my child when and how I see appropriate, but I will always be decent and respectful of those around me who may not be comfortable with it. I WILL NOT leave because you can't handle it though. Law of tonnage, my friend, I have more stuff to carry, you do not, so you leave. My children are ten years apart and there wasn't as much ignorance ten years ago as there is now.

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    17. First of all, if someone is offended by breastfeeding in public, they have been taught to sexualize feeding time for a baby. When I see a baby being breastfed, I know that it is eating, not making sexual advances. I think that it is absolutely disgusting to look at breastfeeding in a sexual light. After all, what other reason would someone be offended? I think women should be able to breastfeed wherever they are, whenever the baby is hungry. It is food. that is all. As far as being covered. baby cover momma's nipple when they are feeding. That is enough cover. It isn't like the mother's are just walking around with their boobs hanging out and shaking them in people's faces. I don't know if this is even a problem in other countries, but in the U.S. we need to get over it. An uncovered body part does not = sex.

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    18. In the beginning I was very shy and unsure how to breastfeed I public. I tried using blankets and covers but my son HATED them! I came to the realization that feeding my son anywhere and everywhere he needed was what mattered and people like you could stare all they wanted. I've never been approached to "cover up" but I have a few choice words for anyone who does.

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    19. When that baby is suckling away the breast is already covered with a baby's mouth! What's the different between a woman showing cleavage and a side of a boob hanging off to one side. Some women show way more than us that breastfeed.

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    20. Put a blanket over your head and keep it there for at least an hour eight times a day AND at every meal time. See how you like ...rebreathing your C02 .....!!!

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    21. People sure didn't have a problem with me when there wasn't a baby attached to my cleavage, some even asked me to show more, now that I'm a mother feeding her child it's an issue!

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    22. I am young and conservative in the way I dress. I tried and tried to cover my daughter while feeding her, but that was not what she wanted. At only three days old she would swat away the blanked and arch her back screaming until the cover was removed. I tried positioning my arm in awkward ways so that the blanket wouldn't be anywhere near her face or body, but nope she would resist.

      It is incredibly insensitive for you to make such comments. Breastfeeding is already enough of a challenge and takes a lot of time for a new mom to be comfortable feeding her child in public and to add this extra harshness very rude, mean and full of unknowing judgment. Nobody is like "hey finally I get to show my boobs off in public, hooray" Its more like " okay I get to feed my child from my body and need to learn to be okay and even maybe comfortable with the fact that people will see a part of me that I normally hide, but anything to keep my baby healthy and happy."

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    23. Sex is beautiful and natural, doesn't mean people should be doing it in public.

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    24. So you're saying natural is gross. I disagree.

      A baby must eat. It's natural. Cover your face up when you eat dinner tonight.

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    25. What is this world coming to?, if mothers can't even do what nature intended with ridicule. The true problem are the people the people who can't contain their egos, and with people thinking we are anything more that natural beings, Intelligence or not opinions aside, It's only a problem when people make it one.. grow up.

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    26. Your "RIGHT" Why would you want to see some mother boobies with a kid already on them?! I want my boobs displayed by revealing blouses, bikinis, and lacy bras damnit! Don't you know what tits are for!?!

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    27. It is natural to breastfeed I bet if all women walked round topless I bet you'd love that though wouldn't you. You wouldn't be complaining about that

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    28. I've no issue with breastfeeding but...

      I used to work in hospitality, a nice restaurant with quiet dining serving a clientele ranging from families to business meals to retirees. I fully appreciate that when an infant needs to feed, pretty much where ever you happen to be is a good place to do it. My caveat to this, is that, in my understanding that breast feeding is not sexual, those mothers doing it, treat it the same. Just beacuse I,at the time, was a male in his early 20s, did not mean my looking at you as you breast fed, was me leering at your relatively covered breast. It meant that I was taking your order or answering the question you just asked me.

      Breastfeeding is fine. Using it as a means to fire shots at those who encounter it is not. If you feel yourself mature enough to breastfeed in public, give the benefit of the doubt that those you encounter are the same.

      Again, I support the campaign as a whole, just not the minority that choose to use breastfeeding as a reason to shame those they encounter.
      I suppose it's just an unfortunate thing that on both sides of many arguments, it is the vocal minority of the 'woefully offended', that make their side seem the majority.

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    29. I agree and so does my breastfeeding wife. If a woman can have the option of pulling our their breast then I have the option of staring and saying that looks delicious.

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    30. A baby's eye sight is only developed enough to see a few inches, the same distance between a mother and her baby's face when breast feeding. Breast feeding isn't only feeding, it's nurturing and developing the relationship between baby and mother. If the baby's head is covered that opportunity goes away.

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    31. As a breastfeeding mother I have the right to feed my daughter anywhere I so choose and if i want to cover her or not. That choice is up to the child more than the mother. My Daughter will kick her legs and move her free arm until that blanket is gone. So even if I did decide to cover up it would not last long so I'm sorry that you don't want to see the NATURAL way to feed a child. Breast are not just "toys" for men to enjoy. Their whole purpose is for us to feed our children.

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    32. My son couldn't stand being covered by a blanket because he was born in May in the South and it's really really stinkin' HOT! He would sweat like crazy even with a light blanket. There were also times that he was fussy and hard to latch, so the blanket wasn't going to stay put. Covering up, even with light weight cover ups, is such an inconvenience for something that is so natural.

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    33. A mother and her baby is a very beautiful thing. this don't mean stare at them all the time. yes it is unavoidable to see them. but he or she who sees this all natural thing and gets offended or thinks it has something to do with sex is a pervert. and should just go away without a word said. a mother should not be ashamed of what they must do. I wish this was not a topic to be mention about. but that small amount of shallow minded people out there has just got to have something to say about it. to all the breastfeeding mothers out there I am sorry that you are having to put up with a bunch of idiots that can't get enough attention to themselves. just do what you need to do and don't worry about the feeble minded critics out there.

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    34. I am a mother of 2 children, both of whom I breastfed until 2 1/2 years old. I've had to take my breast out in public at the supermarket, park, restaurants, the mall. When you are a breast feeding mom, you basically have two choices pump your milk or pop it out! I've been approached by idiots stating: "I don't want to see that," or "Could you please cover yourself." My children did not like being covered period. This is a natural and pure way for your child to get fed. Some people are just naïve.

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    35. Anonymous, how brave of you to be hiding behind "Anonymous". Why are you hiding? Anyway, you are completely WRONG with your comment that "...people just dont want to see exposed women with children everywhere." What would have been the correct thing to say is that YOU don't want to see this everywhere. The other thing, "it isn't everywhere" because not that many women nowadays breastfeed. I don't have an issue with this if a mother decides to do this. It is only your insecurity. Got that? Leave these brave women alone fool.

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    36. Covering a childs head when he/she eats is something that has been done in public for ages. The child doesn't care one way or another as long as you do this from the start. The child will associate blanket with feeding. It can be just as natural as using a pacifier. As for me (a grown man), seeing a breast is still sexy even if there is another person attached to it. If you don't want me to look at your breast (which I LOVE me some plump breast) then cover it up. It's about common ground. What's good for everyone, not just one person or one group.

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    37. I had a child at 16, just days before I was 17, I was married...I breastfed my child at home and in public and did the same with my other child born when I was 27. First of all, age doesn't matter, personally experiencing having a child in my teens then in my late 20's, I had more energy when I was younger to keep up, I kept up, but tired more easily. I think it's nuts to wait til your much older. I do NOT recommend teen mothers tho, don't get me wrong, teens in my generation were much more mature than teens nowadays. For breastfeeding in public, wear a nursing bra and a maternity/nursing blouse with a concealed slit to allow for nursing as I did, it just looks as if the baby is sleeping and nothing is visible, therefore there is no need to cover with a blanket.

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    38. For all of you who associate breastfeeding with sex? GROW A F'N BRAIN! Dawn Webster Savasta

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    39. When I was a scared little wimp I responded to normal things as "anonymous." If you feel strongly AND are strong, use your name. Breastfeeding is normal.

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    40. I have no problem with women breastfeeding, but breastfeeding in public without covering yourself, no. How many times do you ACTUALLY have to breastfeed while out in public??? So don't use the excuse you don't like to cover your child up while doing it. Most women only have to breastfeed while out in public very seldom. If a man sits there and stares at you while you are breastfeeding, are you going to be okay with that or scream he's invading your privacy? There are covers made now where you can put the strap around your neck and the top will gap out so you can look down at your baby while feeding him/her, so those of you who are using the excuse about putting a blanket on your kid's head need to get over it. Yes, it's natural to breastfeed, but the majority of people in this country are uncomfortable when a woman whips out her boob in public even if it is to feed her baby. It's better to whip it out under the privacy of an udder cover and then no one can complain.

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    41. Wow, you are self centered aren't you. It doesn't matter if a mother needs to breastfeed once in public or a million times. If the child is hungry, feed the child. As for exposing ones breasts while breast feeding, it happens. Now I've seen mothers breast feeding and never noticed, and I've seen mothers feed the babies while letting the breasts just hang out. I guess you have to ask yourself a question, "Am I a prude, do I think this is wrong". If you answered yes, then just keep your opinion to yourself and go away. The Law states that it is legal for Mothers to breast feed in public, If you think its immoral or wrong. Then all I have to say is that you need to educate yourself or go live in Canada.

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  2. Yeah cause I bet you eat with a blanket over your head all the time right? My child doesnt like her head to be covered period, and im not letting her starve because a little top of my boob that shows around her head makes you uncomfortable. If thats the case I hope you never go to the beach because teenage girls there show more boob then I do when feeding my child. Maybe we should stop sexualizing boobs and teach children what they are really there for, breast feeding! We dont ask cute littlw animals to cover up when they are feeding their young. We are mammals, we lactate, get over it.

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    1. Actually it's common decency really, you dont need to cover the entire childs headm I never said that.. and i seriously doubt the teenage girls whip out their whole breast lmaoo and the oness that are that exposed usually the ones who party n sleep around.. people with morals n decency dont expose themselves. . Umm You can go to your car or it is possible to put you're milk in a bottle and take it with you to feed your child lol its beautiful to you because its your child. People dont go out in public to see people breast feed lol u can watch that beauty at home and be responsible when u leave the house and bottle it. And btw it makes many people uncomfortable. If I had a wife I wouldnt want her showing her breasts in public... be responsible and prepare for wheen you go out lol

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    2. If you had a wife! Omg she would beat you! Ha! And bottles make nipple confusion that's why we don't use bottles. Please read up and stop being a pervert! Just wait till you have your own child!

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    3. I hope that if you ever have children you will change your thought on this. My daughter won't take a bottle and gets way too hot if she is covered. I'm not sitting asking anyone to stare at me as I feed her. She is my daughter and I would do anything for her. Nursing her in public is about meeting her basic needs and has absolutely nothing to do with you or your feelings.

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    4. My daughter will not take a bottle. We have tried. There is far more exposed from people's lack of clothing then breastfeeding. But I guess that's OK by you? Because you can get your jolly off. I will not starve my child, feed in a car or bathroom. If people don't like it stop watching. You actually see very little.

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    5. The ones who are exposed are ones with loose morals and sleep around? Excuse you, but a - not all women can pump, b - my child does not eat very well with a blanket over her head,and c - have been married and faithful to my husband for 5.5 years.

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    6. Anonymous poster at 0623- if that is how you feel then don't go out in public because you might see someone breastfeeding, or bring a blanked to cover your head if someone is breastfeeding, or why not take your food out to the car or in the bathroom?? I am still breastfeeding my 14 month old and do not hesitate to feed him in public if he wants to nurse.I think that it is disgraceful that society is ok with women just showing their breasts off because they can and are offended by breastfeeding. Some people just need to grow up.

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    7. Yes, it's possible to put it in a bottle, but for every bottle you feed baby, you have to pump the same amount to maintain supply. And sure you can pump before, but if a longer trip/dinner is ahead, a momma can end up engorged (which is so uncomfortable--think rock hard breasts), which can lead to plugged ducts and infection. So your comfortability leads to another being at risk for sickness. It's not nearly as clear cut as you think. Babies pull the blanket off half the time anyhow.

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    8. Oh, you silly people. Haven't you figured out that only exposing part of the nipple is what causes offense?? We can see all of the breast tissue exposed at Victoria's Secret or on the beach, but heaven help us if we see a glimpse of the areola when a baby is nursing. We couldn't afford bottles when I had my children, nor did we need them. I had all of the necessary equipment that God gave me to feed my babies. Pumps were virtually non-existent. Feeding a baby isn't about morality. Very few mothers "whip it out" to feed their babies. Most prefer discretion. But if we don't see women breastfeeding publicly, it will take a long time to normalize it. I'm a lactation specialist. I am here to support, promote, and protect breastfeeding. Mr. Anonymous's attitude is far to prevalent. We are working to change that. Go eat in your own car if you are so offended. We are not responsible for your reactions. Even the VICTORIANS nursed openly and uncovered!!

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    9. I'd be willing to bet you see public breastfeeding more often than you realize because the vast majority of women are so discreet you don't even realize what they're doing. If you've never done it yourself you don't even know what to look for.
      Women who are nursing full time often can't pump enough milk to put in a bottle. Bottles also introduce nipple confusion. They're also much less sanitary, much more junk to lug around, more money that some women don't have, and much more work to use just to make sure everyone around them is comfortable...especially since she might be miserable with her breasts filling with milk that's not being used. Then once her breasts are full her brain gets the signal that her baby doesn't need as much milk anymore, which leads to decreased milk supply, mastitis, abceses, and thrush. Oh, and would you want your wife to go sit in an un -air conditioned car in 90 degree weather just to feed your child while everyone else is enjoying the ac wherever you are? Just so you don't feel uncomfortable with someone seeing your wife use her breasts as biology intended? IMO that's pretty damn selfish, for you and your baby.

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    10. Generally, people with "morals and decency" don't troll mommy blogs for the sole purpose of calling people immoral and indecent. "lol" Also, if people actually stood by what they were saying, they would sign their name to it, rather than hiding behind an "Anonymous" label. "lol" Way to go, being so courageous in standing up for what you think will get the most backlash and attention. "lol" Way to go, being obviously so educated and experienced in what you are talking about, before you carelessly spout off random, hurtful sentences. "lol" Because as long as you don't have to see who you're hurting, and no one knows who you are, it's okay right. "lol". And if you punctuate every sentence with "lol", it takes away the sting of your words? Right? "lol" Way to be a troll. "lol" I imagine you to be a frat boy who googled "breast" and found your way here. "lol" Why don't you just leave the mommy blogs to the mommies.

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    11. You are so ignorant. If you bottle feed your baby you have to pump the missed feed or you lose your supply. Would you like to see my pump in public? Now THAT would be a show!

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    12. Well, we can all see why you DON'T have a wife :)

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  3. Its acceptable as long as its covered? Do you cover your face when you eat? I find people chewing with their mouths open way more offensive than a helpless baby nursing. Get a grip.

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    1. Maybe I should stop covering my natural and beautiful genitals.

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    2. Do your "beautiful" genitals feed a human being?? I thought not. And I'm sure they are the opposite of beautiful. Just saying. People like you are a disgrace.

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    3. Actually, they create life.

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    4. ^^Your only saying all of this soo you can get attention... because no-one has time for an ignorant jerk like you!

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    5. I am just wondering in the world witch they push and even brain wash women to give birth naturally and even there is no insurancecovered for those moms who do not want the natural way which means there are some guys deciding in our place what is or isn`t good for us even a lot of articles about breastfeeding !!!! when it comes to reality oh my god , SHAME on you !! in this case you want them to pump their milk and bottle-feed their baby !! halloooooooooow is there any low to protect the natural - way and the most beautiful time of banding between mom and her baby ???? it`s a shame for those who stare at a mom while breastfeeding their baby and judging them with their dirty fantasy . you better up grade you humanity as often as your gadgets . God Bless all the MOMS

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    6. Do you even have genetalia? I think not with how childish you are acting sir. Let them drop. We are just trying to feed our babies. Do you even know if you were breast fed ? If so. Your mother probably delt with the same ridicule youre giving us, which im sure she would be disappointed about. As a new breastfeeding mom, i was nervous to even breast feed in front of the nurses at the hospital. Not because only because it was my first time, but because i wouldnt ever pull my breast out in public in front of anyone if i didnt have a good reason. Id like to think feeding my newborn premature baby is a good reason. And though you may not see it, your disapproval and judgment of this makes me even more worried for when i will have to do this in public. So maybe think twice before you judge breast feeding mothers or say something negative about it because im sure theyre already nervous enough like i am.

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  4. My son loves to remove, play with, try to throw my cover, shirt anything else if it is in his reach while nursing. So we just go without now. It is much less of a scene then trying in vain to keep covered. There should be no "if" or "but" statements if a i support breastfeeding statement.

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  5. Women walk around daily exposing MORE than what is exposed while breastfeeding. Perhaps the next time you decide to eat in public, you shoukd cover your face, because your mouth is inappropriate.

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    1. It's funny you say that. I actually find, for whatever reason, all forms of eating unnerving. I hate the sound of myself chewing. So yes, no more public restaurants for anyone! I like that idea.

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  6. If I had a wife, Lol! I see why you don't. Any how, who are you to define common decency?! How about it's common decency to not comment on a women's thread? Or better yet, speak. You such a joke. And disgust this world. Good day meaningless person! Go comment on how to get a life. Feed on mamas!

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  7. You've obviously never tried to breastfeed a baby with a blanket over their head. They hate it and will pull it off. It's tricky enough to feed your baby without somewhere to rest your elbow let alone trying to hold a blanket on top of them as they squirm. Breasts' sole purpose is to nourish a child and no woman should have to be made to feel shamed and embarrassed just because you are uncomfortable with a little bit of skin. I highly doubt you would ask a woman wearing a bikini to cover up; nursing shows less soon than a woman at the beach. Get over yourself!

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  8. I am not responsible for you in any way, shape, or form. I reject any attempts to force that responsibility on my.

    You are (supposedly) a grown-a$$ adult. Take responsibility for your own feelings and actions.

    Oh, and if you ever do get a wife? Remember that she will NOT be your property. She will retain possession of all her own body parts. That means it's HER say and her choice what she does with her body. Not yours.

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  9. Comments that start "breastfeeding is acceptable *IF*" is exactly why we still need this campaign.

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  10. There is much ignorance and very little acceptance on BOTH sides of this topic. Everyone should ake a step back, reevaluate, and find some middle ground.

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    1. What exactly is ignorant about a woman's right to feed her baby?

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    2. It becomes ignorance and pointless intolerance on our part when anyone who, perhaps only because they have never been educated, makes a comment like "use a blanket," and we all jump in the pit to shame them, because we mamas said so! We demand tolerance and acceptance for all! Unless it irritates us, then. . . we hang the bastard. But. . . yes - tolerance! It is what we demand! We must make our plight known! Educate the rest of the world! We all say to each other how important it is to educate the uneducated. But then when someone who is honestly trying to take part in the discussion says something, well, uneducated, we all rally to the cry:
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      So quit whining and fucking educate! They are obviously here, taking part in this discussion with us. Stop talking about how ignorant you feel everyone is, and take action. Christ.

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  11. I am a female and a mother as well and I partially agree with the man. There are plenty of ways to appropriately breast feed in public. I am all for breastfeeding, and rather than continuously promoting what is being considered an "issue" I have never once been hassled or looked at strangely for properly feeding my child in public. he is correct in that it does make many people uncomfortable. No one says you must hide in nasty bathrooms, but there are plenty of places easily found in public to practice some form of discretion. Remember breast feeding is your choice as a mother and others have opinions as well. I as a mother frown upon women who also change diapers in inappropriate places as well. If you expect people to be respectful to us as breast feeders, you should also be respectful to those who don't have children, or choose not to breastfeed. I as a breastfeeding mother do not want to watch you feed your child any more than I would expect you me.

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    1. Certainly, women can choose to breastfeed with discretion. Most do. However, changing diapers in an inappropriate place is nothing like breastfeeding in public. That is a different issue altogether. We don't expose eating surfaces to human excrement because that could spread disease.

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    2. I didn't say anything specific to eating surfaces, I said inappropriately doing it in public.

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    3. Well miss almighty pass thou judgement!! It's people like you that we're the reason I had to sit through dinners and shopping completely engorged while my baby had to have bottles and ultimately I lost my supply. Get off your high horse and see what your judgemental ways do to other people. Get a grip

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    4. I too agree partially with this man and thank you for your comments, Anonymous. I am a mother who did not breast feed but would never say that women should be shamed into not feeding their child. However, I do believe there are places that are more appropriate than others.

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    5. But why is it inappropriate. Because the social media says its sex and we believe it. How about all women wear a head covering for the few middle eastern men who were taught that a woman with her head uncoverd was sexual. Its the same. We are condition to feel uncomfortable because sex sells and so does formula but breastfeeding does not.

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    6. I exclusively breastfed for 6 months and still breastfeed my almost 1 year old. We breastfeed in public often now, although it was awkward at first and took time to figure out how to be discrete. I am a huge breastfeeding advocate. With that being said- I agree that discretion should be used. I am a modest person in general, and don't like watching anyone's breasts in public (whether it be shirts too small, too much cleavage, VS ads in the mall). I think moms should feel completely comfortable breastfeeding in public, but as a culture we need to show more modesty in all things we do- including breastfeeding. But obviously, that's just my opinion. And, as the VS advertising doesn't care about my opinions, I don't think a nursing mother should either. But if you do care about how you make other people feel, breastfeed away- with modesty as able.

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  12. I'm completely ignorant... why don't mothers bottle their breastmilk before they go out? I get to these links from a Facebook friend who is a breastfeeding advocate and it seems to never come up. I understand why a public bathroom is less than ideal or a blanket can make a baby too hot, but didn't see anything behind that.

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    1. Good question. And lots of women do pump for their babies. For me, I breastfed in public because I couldn't afford a pump or bottles. Plus, I didn't see any reason to do anything else but feed my babies when they needed to be fed. Bottle nipples are entirel different from human nipples and may be refused by a breastfeeding baby. Pumping doesn't always work for mothers, as it doesn't inspire the same hormonal response as a baby's mouth on the breast. All of this isn't just about feeding our babies: it has to do with the cultural expectation that breasts are sexual rather than functional. We have a long way to go.

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    2. Some breastfed babies refuse bottles, especially from mom. Also, some women don't respond well to the pump.....these were both the case for me. If I was anywhere where my son could see me, he refused a bottle....even when my husband tried to give it to him. So, he was exclusively breastfed when I was around. Also, my body just didn't respond as well to the pump. I could pump some, but not enough in one sitting. Also, when someone has more than one child, spending an extra 20 minutes sitting at the table pumping just so you can go to the mall or run to the grocery store isn't always a realistic option. It's hard to understand when you haven't been there. I used to think the same thing....then I had a baby, now I understand.

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    3. Many women cannot pump. It's a lot more difficult than just putting it in a bottle. Breastfeeding is a supply and demand system, so if I pump milk (if I'm able), I will have to wait a while before I can feed my baby again. Then when I go out and bring my breast milk, I will have to keep it cold with an ice pack until it's ready to use, then find somewhere to warm it up with hot water. Then when I feed my baby the bottle, it's likely that my breasts will be full again, because of the supply/demand system. Full breasts and a baby with a full (from bottle) tummy equals engorgement, which is very painful, and also can cause you to leak- a LOT. So, while I may not have offended anyone by giving my baby a bottle, I am now in agony and have breastmilk running down my shirt.

      As you can see, straight from the source and on demand is the obvious choice.

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    4. I replied to someone on this issue above, but I'll answer your question here as well with a bit more detail.
      First of all, you have to understand that breastfeeding biology is extremely efficient. After the first few weeks the breasts normally produce only the amount of milk that the baby is taking in. So for a mom that is breastfeeding full time (as in not pumping or working) it is extremely hard to get the amount of extra milk necessary for a bottle or two. For a mom who is away from her baby for part of the day and has to pump while she's away (such as the case with working moms) giving a baby an extra bottle while she's out shopping or eating takes away from the amount of milk she has to give the caregivers to feed the baby in her absence. In addition many working moms need that time spent with their baby to reestablish a good milk supply because pumps don't simulate a feed very accurately and supply can take a hit.
      The breasts produce milk on a supply and demand basis. Baby demands milk by nursing, the breasts get a signal to the amount and frequency of feeds and creates milk based on that demand. If a mom goes out with her baby and doesn't pump while the bottle is being given then her breasts fill with milk. The brain receives that full breast signal and gets the message that too much milk is being produced and it will decrease milk supply next time. For a mom with possible supply issues this can be detrimental. For a mom who doesn't have supply issues it will become a slow decline in supply if the practice is done continually every time she's out. (It happened to me...)
      Full breasts can also lead to painful plugged ducts, mastitis (painful infection of the milk duct), and painful latching.
      Another reason is that it can cause nipple confusion. When a baby nurses he has to work to get milk out. It's not like sucking on a straw. (Or a bottle.) When they suck on a bottle the milk comes fast and without effort. Then there's a possibility that baby will become frustrated with nursing and not go back to it again.
      Also, when you bring breast milk with you it's not like bringing formula and bottles of water. The water for a bottle of formula can be kept at room temp with no issues. Breast milk has to be kept cold to keep it from spoiling. So you're not only lugging around bottles of milk (or bags of milk) but a cooler and ice packs. Huge pain in the rear. It's much easier just to feed from the tap, so to speak.
      It sounded like you were honestly curious, so I hope that answered some of your questions.

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    5. Very good answer! Pretty much explains the whole pumping etc issue. Personally I tried to pump but I had hurt myself (didnt have it centered correctly) and after that one time I was unable to pump... literally nothing would come out. However, I was full of milk (engorged) so a baby was the ONLY way to get the milk out.

      There is also the point that breastmilk CAN NOT be microwaved. And also must be kept cold.... I havent met a baby yet that likes cold milk....

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    6. Well said, Anonymous @ 7:45. Most people truly don't understand the biology of breastfeeding and you have made it very clear. On a side note, breast milk can be kept at room temperature for 4-6 hours, but if you happen to be in the heat, you definitely need a cooler and ice packs.

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    7. One of the benefits of breastfeeding is that you DON'T have to pack bottles and formula to go out - all of baby's food is with you all the time. There shouldn't be any reason why a mom would need to take 20-30 minutes before leaving the house just to prepare bottles of milk for her baby when instead she can simply pack the diaper bag with all the other million things babies need and get out the door. When you have to pack and plan for leaving the house with a baby, it helps that you don't have to think about food more than possibly packing a cover and burp cloths.

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  13. The only thing that could be more thought-provoking than this campaign would be an image of a mother bottle feeding her baby in the toilet.

    Breastfeeding is acceptable anywhere bottlefeeding is. Period, no qualifiers.

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    1. Disagree. I brought my wife and our son to meet business associates for a business dinner. He was bottle fed at the table. I believe breast feeding in front of my business colleagues would of been very inappropriate at the table.

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    2. Maybe taking your baby to a business meeting is the thing that is inappropriate. I breast fed my baby when he needed to be fed, which was not all that often when we were in public, but I also think that it's necessary to sometimes change your behavior because you have a baby. So you have a business dinner...ok, have your wife come along and get a babysitter for the baby. Women should be able to breastfeed wherever they want, but parents should consider that not every location is an appropriate place to take a baby.

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    3. Agreed. They were in town for a short period and wanted to meet my wife. However we were unable to secure a babysitter on short notice and unfortunately had to bring him for them to meet her... Would it have been acceptable for him to nurse at the table or should she have stepped away?

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    4. I disagree. Just because I became a mother doesn't mean my life I had before had to stop. If I had to attend a business meeting (which I did) and my husband and child were invited I would bottle feed my child. My son is the most important thing in this world to me but the life I had before him did not stop. I needed to continue working and carrying on with my life so if that included a meeting than so be it. Breastfeeding might be natural and beautiful but I disagree that it is acceptable everywhere.

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    5. I personally think it would be appropriate to breastfeed the baby at the table. As appropriate as feeding the baby a bottle. I have breastfed, uncovered and had people talk to me about my child, touch her and interact, all without them even realizing I was breastfeeding. I don't know anyone who lets there whole breast hang out.

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  14. Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing and a bond between a mother and child...with that being said, it should be between a 'mother and a child', not full exposure to the public, especially perverts and strangers...there's this thing called 'respect' for your body, don't overexpose yourself just to prove a point. Go ahead and breastfeed, but keep in mind the society we live in, people with cell phone cameras that are ready to 'snap and share' at any moment..too many women use this as a reason to act 'strong'...if your wanting that bond, respect yourself and child and do it privately.

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    1. if someone wants to take a picture of me breastfeeding my baby thats up to them. Dont be niave, there are perverts looking at your young child you let wear shorts to her ass cheeks too. Someone will always find something to "snap a picture" of. Have you seen People of Walmart? Id rather normalize breastfeeding. I have the utmost respect for my body, and I am careful to layer my clothing. But does that mean I am going to go sit in a hot car or be shamed to a bathroom stall, um no. If you have an issue with it, go home.

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    2. Ashley, my thoughts exactly. Go ahead and snap away at my breastfeeding baby if you want. There isn't anything sexual about it.

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    3. Women who respect themselves and their children feed them when they are hungry. Breastfeeding is not exposing oneself, if you think that you're a pervert with some serious hang-ups.

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    4. If someone wants to spread a picture of me and my breastfeeding baby around then I say go for it!
      I had a friend who nursed her first baby around me quite a bit so when my time came I had an idea of what to do, what feeding looked like, and I'm so grateful for it! I don't know what women do who've never seen it before. More people need to see it for it to be normal and for us to have fewer problems with it.

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  15. I don't feel like I have to find any middle ground on this topic. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first 6 months of a child's life. The World Health Organization recommends until 2 years of age. We are a society rooted in the sexualization of women. I am sad that my daughter has to grow up in a society shaming her for what her body was naturally made to do, and with men who think it is their place to sexualize her or tell her what to do with her own body. We are also an obese society who does not develop healthy eating habits from birth. Breast milk has all the foundational nutrients to help a child's brain and body grow. In regards to using a bottle, please educate yourself on the breastfeeding baby before you make such comments riddled with ignorance. First of all, bottle nipples are much different from human nipples and breastfeeding babies will often prefer only the breast.Secondly, some mothers have an inability to pump their breasts because pumps are endorphin inhibitors and endorphin release is what controls a breastfeeding mothers ability to "let down'. Please get a grip. This is also a human rights issue. Would you take your lunch in the bathroom with you, cover your head while eating, or deny a diabetic food when they need it because they are in public? Please educated yourself because your ignorance is deafening. I commend mothers who encourage their daughters to use their body the way it was intended, and also mothers who raise their sons to know the difference.

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    1. If this campaign is to spread the word and educate these men, why would you think that "Please educated yourself because your ignorance is deafening. - See more at: http://www.mamabeanparenting.com/2014/05/public-toilet.html?showComment=1399545332604#c1646391795799393982" is an acceptable thing to say? If we must educate others, the last thing we should do is tell them to shut up until they educate themselves. That statement is the epitome of counterproductive ignorance. Your entire post, save that statement, was incredibly mature and educational. Why destroy a beautifully helpful piece of writing with that hyperbolic personal attack?

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  16. Honestly, I don't worry much about it. I breastfed my son wherever I was, for a year. When my daughter is born, I will do the same. Anyone who doesn't like it has no choice but to deal with it. I usually used a cover, but sometimes I forgot it, and around 9 month old, he wouldn't eat if I used it...but none of that really matters. The law supports me feeding my baby whenever, wherever, and however I need or want to. So, in the end...it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says to me or behind my back....my baby and I are the ones who win because the law supports us, not the haters.

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  17. It's just a boob. Holy. Crap.

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    1. OMG somebody said it! My thoughts EXACTLY! people are such ignorant pieces of shit, gasping over a woman's breast when they are in the movies now a days, much more exposed than a breastfeeding mother. Bunch of hypocrites.

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    2. THANK YOU!

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    3. Yes, we must fight those "ignorant pieces of shit." Wow.

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    4. I agree that people who don't accept breastfeeding in public are ignorant...ignorant about what breasts are for and how a breastfeeding mother FEELS when her baby cries to eat. Unfortunately, the general public is just not "there" yet. You ladies are doing a great work in paving the way for other "truly caring" moms to do what's best for their children and not be ashamed of it!! I was there, so I know: I was once a young mom of 21 and 23, doing what I knew that I knew that I knew was the very best thing for each of my children's beginning physical development. I also want to add that I am a conservative Christian and know that there is NOTHING indecent about a mother feeding her child...even in public. This is a socially/culturally applied standard which sure seems silly where SO many other social standards are extremely lax.

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  18. Mothers don't 'bottle' their milk for several reasons. For some, their milk won't let down to pump in the first place. Second, a bottle has to be warmed to the proper temperature, while breastmilk is ready for consumption. Third, why would a woman waste time pumping when breastmilk is always available at the source? Not everyone has an hour to sit and pump every time they leave the house.

    To the ignorant ass equating breastfeeding with exposing oneself - you are an idiot. A woman breastfeeding her child is NOT sexualizing herself, YOU are. If breastfeeding makes you uncomfortable, you're the creep. You know that you are alive today because women have been having babies and breastfeeding them for centuries, right? You think women in hunter-gatherer societies used blankets and breast pumps? Get over yourself.

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  19. I've been breastfeeding for the last 6 years (4 babies). I almost always cover-for MY piece of mind. None of you need to see my boobs. BUT, the few times I've been without a cover, we were able to nurse just fine. IF the glimpse of exposed breast you see is that upsetting to you, that's your issue.
    Also, I've never-EVER-had one person tell me to take myself to the restroom or other designated places...maybe I have a "I'm ready to fight for my rights" look, or something....I'm sorry so many moms have to deal with bf discrimination.

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    1. I've never had negative comments either. I've had a few dirty looks, but I've been pretty lucky in that it's usually old ladies coming up to me saying how glad they are to see a mom nursing their baby. :) It always makes my day.

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    2. I have never had any problems either, but I am wondering if it's a regional thing. I live in the northeast (and nursed my baby at rest stops on the thruway/turnpike during our long car drive last summer with no problem) and, like I said, never has anyone said a word to me about breastfeeding. But a friend of mine in Tennessee has been hassled several times. I don't know if people from other regions of the country might want to comment as well?

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    3. I have also never had actual comments but a few dirty looks (once even from another NURSING MOM, I assume cos I was not using a cover and she was? ). Before I NIP I thought elderly people would be the first to disapprove/give dirty looks and then I realised (and have been told) that a lot of these older women nursed in public themselves because they didn't have fancy pumps like we have nowadays. The verbal SUPPORT I have recieved has all been from older women.

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  20. As far as the picture above. I've seen more boob coming out of girls shirts just walking in the mall, park or at dinner etc. When I breastfeed my son I don't pull up a chair in the middle of the room whip out my boob and say hey try not to look at me if don't want to! But I also refuse to nurse in a bathroom and covers forget it my son will rip that thing right off. I do find a more quiet area of the room to sit and nurse my son but honestly if you then look over in my general area and happen to even know what it doing ( most of the time I bet unless your starring you wouldnt even notice) and you don't like you see LOOK AWAY! And if your children look over and ask a question about it. Educate them. Tell them what I'm doing. And nicely explain that it nice to stare if you would prefer them not look. If you don't make it a big deal about it with your kids their not even going to think twice about it. This is becoming more common in America and I'm so happy to see it. So honestly you have a choice grow up, get over your self and except it or stop going out because this is getting a lot bigger, more women are getting educated in breastfeeding and more and more women are going to be breastfeeding in public. And it's AWESOME!

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  21. I think part of the problem (as I am seeing reading these comments) is that many people don't understand how breastfeeding works and the biology behind it. Someone commented above with a beautiful description of how this all works. Maybe if more people understood how breastfeeding works, they would be more understanding of why women don't "just pump and put it in a bottle" for outings.

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    1. And yet, somehow your highly-intelligent suggestion falls upon deaf ears, as everyone else is already busy attacking anyone who isn't in our "club." If only rational thought was more powerful than the mob, we would have no issues.

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  22. I think breastfeeding is natural and wonderful, but one the other hand, if a business asks you to cover up or go somewhere else, you need to. It is their business, so it is their right to ask that of you.

    It'd be like if someone was walking past your house, and decided to sit on the sidewalk and just having a party. Drinking and whatnot. It is technically a public place, but it is in front of your house where you have to view it. So of course you're going to ask them to leave.

    Just food for thought.

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    1. Most states have laws protecting breastfeeding mothers from being told to stop feeding/cover up/leave.

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    2. Actually, it is not their right. It is my right to feed my child. Nursing is legally protected, in most places.

      This is also the worst analogy I've ever seen. First, I have no domain over the sidewalk. Second, illegal activities like drinking in public are nothing like feeding a child.

      Baby is hungry. Baby eats. End of story. Why is this hard?

      Just, ya know... food for thought.

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    3. So if I was black, and was asked to leave because my skin colour was offensive, that's the business owners right???? It's called discrimination and it's illegal. It's not at all like going into someone's private home, where they can (with in boundaries ) be as ignorant as they want. A business owner has zero right to discriminate.

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  23. So we are supposed to respect you and your choice, but you don't have to respect us and our choice. That seems fair. I'm not saying it shouldn't happen or that you shouldn't do it, but try being respectful about it for those who don't share your opinion. There are ways to be respectful without covering the baby, going in the bathroom or a car. It has become such an issue that some (see I say "some" and not "all" or even the "majority") that they make it overly public just to prove a point. That isn't helping anyone.

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    1. What "choice" are you making? The choice to judge mothers for feeding? You have full control of your eyes, avert them if we offend you.

      You've ruled out feeding in bathroom, car, and with a cover. Tell me what I'm supposed to do when my baby gets hungry and I'm having lunch in a restaurant with my husband. Please, enlighten me so I don't have to offend anyone...

      I do feed with a cover btw but i believe mothers should have the choice to feed in whatever way is comfortable for mom and baby both.

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    2. The thing is, you can choose not to look. A baby can't choose not to be hungry, and many moms can't or don't pump enough milk to give a bottle whenever they go out. And they shouldn't have to. And the law in most US states supports that.

      Also, in all my years of breastfeeding and being around lots of breastfeeding mothers, I have NEVER seen someone make it overly public. I've never seen more boob than what I see on billboards, and the sides of busses, and the grocery store checkout magazines every day.I've never even seen as much as what's in the picture at the top of this page. That is a total straw man.

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    3. I have seen several make it overtly public. In a store with my husband a mom unfastened her halter top, exposed both breasts and used one to feed her infant as she walked about the coop. Where do you draw the line. Is this acceptable? Is exposing only one boob acceptable? Is layering so you don't see so much skin acceptable? Should people walk around naked because we can all choose not to look?

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  24. Apropos of nothing, I suppose, but am I the only one who thinks this young mom looks 14?

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    1. i agree, and that was the very first thing i noticed, even before the fact that she was on a toilet. i think it would have been more gripping to have a man eating a burger in the stall to get the point across, not someone who look like a cast member of teen mom. i think that is going to hurt their campaign because their message will be lost.

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  25. Stuff like this makes me wish I was still breastfeeding so I could do it in public more. This "whip out the breasts" thing is such a straw man. Nobody does that. Most of the time, unless you breastfed yourself, you won't even know it's happening unless you're staring really hard. Show some respect yourself and stop staring so hard. Or put that blanket over your own head if you can't help yourself. I nursed my kids for 9 years straight and not once did anyone ever say anything negative to me. If they had, they'd have gotten an earful.

    When my oldest was an infant, we went on a cruise and we stopped in Nassau, Bahamas. I wasn't sure of the laws there, so I asked a woman in a shop if it was okay if I nursed in public. She didn't understand what I was asking and I had to ask three times before she finally got it, because the concept of it not being okay was so ridiculous to her that she couldn't even conceive of it. I sat down on a bench and nursed my daughter and soon a Bahamian woman came and sat next to me and smiled at me and nursed her baby too.

    The US is so backward and ridiculous when it comes to breastfeeding. Even in places where women cover their heads and faces, breastfeeding is done in the open without incident.

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  26. If a bottle feed baby doesn't have to secluded to a bathroom stall or covered up why should a breastfed baby? Breastfeeding is natural and the healthiest form of food for baby and should been seen as a wonderful thing, not some atrocious act of nudity.

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    1. Urinating is healthy and necessary should that be done in public? Just install exposed toilets because everyone needs to see it and accept it as healthy? Honestly if you sit down and do it right only part of your butt cheek is exposed. I've seen more butt cheek exposed om girls in short shorts and swim suits. Society needs to accept it.

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    2. Are you kidding? Now we're comparing feeding a baby to having a piss? Honestly.

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    3. I can't believe this needs to be explained but t's a hyperbole to show how stupid the argument that something is healthy and therefore it should be publicly acceptable sounds.

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    4. Hyperbolic statements seem to be lost on this lot.

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  27. The feeding isn't sexualized it's breasts that are. People in your society have a reaction to exposed breasts it's not all about you. You are around other people. If it's a hot day people don't come to work naked or in swimwear because it's not acceptable for that public environment. Exposed breasts are not acceptable in public. If you want them to be why don't you put up posters of shirtless women as well. There are cover ups with a structure so as not to smother. There are pumps so as to use a bottle. Your infant hates a bottle? So If you could not produce milk and had to purchase it your infant would die? Don't be lazy, train your children, experiment and pack suitable cover ups and deal with the inconvenience of living like everyone else. If men were meant to share in breastfeeding they would produce milk.

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  28. I don't think you need to cover the child you just need to cover the majority of the breast. I nursed my children in public and no one was the wiser(even my husband sitting next to me). I have also seen women walking around unaware that the child had unattached and I saw the whole breast and the woman were oblivious. I don't need to see someone breast

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    1. Exactly

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    2. amen. this is all anyone is saying when they mention a cover. people get too bent out of shape. peace.

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  29. I breastfed and kept myself covered. I didn't need to dispute myself to the world. All the "you eat covered " comments are ignorant. Newsflash: You can cover your self without covering your baby's entire face. If you need to show your breast, you must want attention. There are people who are nudist and they think it's beautiful too because it's the way God made you. Good thing we all don't agree.

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    1. amen. and if you start covering from the beginning, there is no fuss. and the covers that are out there now have that rigid top wire so mom can look down and see all is well, and it doesn't smother baby like just throwing a blanket might feel like. there are ways, people just have to put forth the effort. peace.

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    2. I disagree completely. I did cover from the beginning and you know babies get more and more curious. They want to see the world. I also had a hooped cover and guess what? I tried to feed my baby on a warm day and she vomited all over me because she was too hot... a hooped cover is not "cooler" at all. You see, I did put forth the effort and it still didn't help.

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  30. i'm a mom, and i exclusively pumped for my daughter who is now 6 months old. nursing was torturous, i loathed every minute of it until i made the smartest decision ever to exclusively pump on day 3. i never looked back, and if we have any other children, i will do things exactly how i did them this time around. there are so many benefits to pumping- i'm not the only one who can feed the child, which means i'm not the only one getting up in the middle of the night, so that wonderful sleep deprivation is equally shared, as it should be. anyone can feed my child- daddy, grandma, cousin, you name it. i can take bottle with me anywhere (and those of you saying it spoils i don't think have enough experience with milk handling- the latest guidelines state that breastmilk is good at room temperature for up to 10 hours- information given to me by lactation nurses in the hospital when she was born. mothers who exclusively nurse might not know this since they are not handling milk). the best part? i can go out and not have to worry about any looks or comments from anyone. she's getting breastmilk, and i don't have to worry about accidentally showing anything. that would have been my biggest hurdle had i not pumped. for ME and ME alone, i would not have been comfortable nursing in public. end of story. i would have HAPPILY used a cover (and frankly, i think if you start it early enough, as with anything, kiddo gets used to it). there was no such "nipple confusion" as some people are saying either. she wants it however she can get it. and now with starting solids, i've been tapering off the pump and i can finally get part of my life back very soon. we have enough frozen to last at least 6 months between bottles and using some to mix in with her food. i get so sick of the mommy wars and this is one of the worst topics. people are NOT saying that all moms are exposing themselves, but you have to know there are some of your peers who do, the ones having "nurse ins" and exposing far more than necessary on purpose just because they think they can. they are out there. they aren't doing anyone any favors by making a stink. it is those loudmouth moms acting as if they are making a statement, but are doing far more harm than good that most people immediately think of when they think of a mom nursing in public. personally, i just think everyone needs to stay out of everyone else's business- those who disagree with public breastfeeding AND those who think everyone should breastfeed in public. peace.

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    1. I don't mean to be snarky but you quit on day 3. I'm sure you're an expert at pumping. I know I wouldn't have lasted that long exclusively pumping so I totally admire you on that but I don't think you have enough experience to say "and frankly, i think if you start it early enough, as with anything, kiddo gets used to it." I was NOT sleep deprived at all nursing because the baby was able to eat whenever she wanted. You hardly even have to wake up to nurse if you share the bed. Your sleep cycles naturally sync. I think the benefits of breastfeeding far outweigh pumping. We had our share of hardships in the beginning (like when it feels like someone ran a cheese grater over your nipples and you need to put cold packs on them just to keep going) but if you can make it six weeks (there's a learning curve) you won't look back. I urge you to try to go longer with your next.

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    2. well, i don't mean to sound snarky either, but bed sharing is not for us and is a practice i feel is dangerous because i personally know of TWO infants who were smothered to death in bed with parents. extremely sad. if one is going to nurse, i don't believe bed sharing is the way to do it, but that is neither here nor there in relation to the point of the article. and no, thank you, i won't be changing the way we do things if we are blessed with another child down the road- we found the way that works for US, and that is all that matters. i have plenty of experience, thank you, just a different kind than you, and that's what is great about our society- people's right to do things how the see fit for their own situation, whether that is nursing, pumping, or formula. peace.

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  31. I never would have known this before having my own baby, but I love the look of peace and comfort my baby gets when he starts nursing, it is just so perfect. What is not perfect is when he comes off and I have to reunite his mouth with my nipple, which I cannot do without looking at my tatas. I am incredibly awkward with my boobs and so is my baby, his arm gets in the way, or my boob is pointing in some weird direction because of the way he is pressed against it.

    So I've come to the conclusion that from now on I will bring a blind fold, or-to be even more dramatic, a gunnysack with an elastic tie and a mouth hole cut out to give to anyone who says anything. I will be sure to hand it over with an,"Oh my,I'm so sorry how rude of me."

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    1. Hahaha true on all accounts. I have had the same issue!

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  32. I am a mother of two and I breast fed both until 18 mo. Luckily the hospitals in my area have a lot of education regarding breastfeeding. That really helps!

    I have nursed in public with and without a cover. I personally try to cover just because I am a shy person but sometimes it does not work. In the summer, even the lightest cover can over heat the baby... mine once puked all over me because I tried. Also, once the baby gets to about 3+ months they become alert and aware of their surrounds and try as you might they will not be suppressed.

    I wonder if the reason this is such a problem is because everyone over sexualizes the female form? Personally, I think it is sad not everyone can see the beauty in breastfeeding it is a selfless act...

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  33. How about if I take a big dump right next to you next time you're breastfeeding in public. It's natural. If you have a problem with it, then you are an ignorant ass.

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    1. Taking a dump, as you so described is not at all like feeding a little baby... (especially since you would be doing something illegal...breastfeeding in public is legal. ).... but you might as well, if you require women to nurse on the toilet... the germs are the same, the smell is the same... lol. The only plus of the toilet feeding is that there wouldnt be an asshole shitting on the floor next to me.

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    2. Please learn the difference between a simile and an analogy.

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    3. Go ahead and take a dump next to me but don't be surprised when the police arrest you and I move to a new seat and continue breastfeeding my baby LOL!

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  34. Lyssa Starkey7 May 2014 at 18:46

    If you see a woman nursing and you think it's inappropriate, that means you're looking at the woman inappropriately. So that's on you, ya fuckin' pervs.

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  35. Feegdur baby no matter who ever assholes looking at u! thats ur bundle of love not them!

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  36. It takes a special type of asshole to come to a post clearly written from a pro-breastfeeding-in-public stance in a blog written by a pro-breastfeeding-in-public author to an audience of pro-breastfeeding-in-public followers and think to yourself:

    "Self, I see I've found myself in this strange place full of weirdly unethical women who are somehow not disgusted by the idea of a baby breastfeeding where just anyone might look and see that baby eating, so I will take it upon myself to be the beacon of wisdom and educate them about their grave misdeeds and morally repugnant behaviors. After I post my comment, they will all see the wisdom and repent for all of their immodest sins."

    Yeah. We got it. You're grossed out by babies nursing where you can see them. You really haven't said anything that a hundred hypocritical nose-in-our-business assholes haven't already said before you, though, so you'd probably be better off finding some blog post written by some jerk who hates babies and kittens and unicorns and you can all smugly discuss how disgusting and immodest mothers "these days" are. We'll just sit here and quietly nurse our babies and -- while we're at it -- teach them not to be complete dicks when they grow up.

    YOU GET NOTHING! YOU LOSE! GOOD DAY SIR!

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  37. I breastfed my daughter much longer than most. It was very difficult at first. I covered myself but not her and held a blanket or my shirt ready for when she let go. I never fed her in a restroom unless it had a nice sitting area with a chair. I promised myself from the start I would never feed her on a toilet.

    This is what helped me get through parenting in the first few years. I imagined what my daughter would be like as an adult and if she would then be proud of me. Every decision I made was dealt with that way and you know, I think she will be proud of me when I tell her our stories. Don't let a stranger's glance influence you. Do what's best for your child and respect others who do the same. We all have a slightly different idea about what is modest and what isn't but honestly I've never seen anyone with their breast completely hanging out to breastfeed. Do some women actually do that or is that just the drama talking?

    Someone above had asked if his wife should be allowed to feed at the table with his business associates or if she should be asked to leave the table. I always figured women could handle it but men would be super uncomfortable. No, I don't think she should have been forced to leave the table. She has every right to feed her baby whenever and wherever she wants but I wouldn't personally make my husband's business associates uncomfortable on purpose. I'd probably excuse myself to some quiet spot turned away from everyone. Knowing my husband he'd then announce to the table what I was doing over there and he'd soon find out if their wives had breastfed also. Sometimes I'd get embarrassed because he liked to talk about it more than I did. He often came back with stories his friends had shared with him. It helped me to realize that I wasn't the only one. So when you sit down to boldly feed your baby in public and you're giving everyone death stares remember that not everyone is against you. Even the men. Be the mom your son or daughter would be proud of and don't worry about what anyone else thinks.

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  38. Lactation Nation: I don't know whose comments you extracted such deep wisdom from, but please let me also share my insights. I've read the posts. Some think its innapropriate for women to breast feed in public when they are blatently exposing thier breast. I agree. Keep it covered or at least respectfully shielded from public view. That is all.

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    1. When's the last time you saw a woman "blatently [sic] exposing their breast" while nursing? Why the heck would any breastfeeding mom want to do that? She wants to feed her baby, PERIOD. End of story. If you don't like it, you're free to look away or perhaps retreat to a bathroom to pout in a stall while smelling air freshener and listening to constant flushing and where you can feel safe and secure away from all of the yucky boobs hanging out in the big bad world.

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    2. @lactation nation... here's the last time i saw blatent exposing, during "pubic display of breastfeeding day" on twitter last summer. you cannot tell me this person isn't just looking for attention: https://twitter.com/NursingAKmama/status/368034362383560704

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    3. "...here's the last time i saw blatent exposing, during "pubic display of breastfeeding day" on twitter last summer. you cannot tell me this person isn't just looking for attention: https://twitter.com/NursingAKmama/status/368034362383560704"

      I'd say it's all in the eye of the beholder, Anonymous. That photo is just cute to me, but then, I don't have a thing for women with baby's mouths on their nipples as you apparently do, and/or a terrible shame about my body.

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  39. More power to you momma! I nursed for 15 months and I remember the first few months of shame - BUT more power to the women getting the message out there that THERE IS NO SHAME in breastfeeding in public! Those who are uncomfortable should be the ones who are embarrassed!

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  40. I completely support breast feeding and almost anything a mom has to do to make that happen. With that said, I have to question the automatic assumption that anyone who sees anything wrong with it is naturally a pervert. Some people just value social norms and standards over individual freedoms. They confuse norms with morality. In other words, fitting the status quo equal a good person, while deviation from the status quo is evil. To get these people on your side, you just have to educate and, even more so, move the whole culture's level of acceptance on the issue. Calling them perverts to try to shame them doesn't do this. It just provides them with more proof that they are right, when you imply that their objections to breast in public means that they really want them. That response proves that you are the one concerned with the sexualization of breast and breast feeding, while their concern is this culturally constructed concept of decency due to nudity being such a taboo in our society.

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  41. The idea that a baby is going to get cold while nursing is incorrect. Unless the mother is sitting out in the snow, that baby is being heated by the mother's body heat. Add a blanket and the baby is more likely to over heat. Add to it that most babies don't want to be covered up. My sons always would pull a blanket or wrap off. They liked to be able to see my face and not feel all stuffy. The clothes that some women wear can often be far more revealing than a nursing mother. Heck, you got to Hooters' restaurant, which is touted as a "family" and you will see more breast there than at a nursing convention. I see on a nearly daily basis, women wearing tops that cover only from the nipple down. The whole top of the breast is exposed! Well, when nursing a baby, the nipple is covered. So how can that be more offensive? I never once nursed my babies in a bathroom. You don't eat where you shit. I covered when I could, and wore nursing shirts that provided plenty of discretion. No, I didn't sit there with my breast hanging out for the world to see, but I wasn't completely embarrassed if some breast accidentally showed for a second. I mastered breastfeeding while grocery shopping and nobody knew. I didn't do a "schedule" for nursing. I fed my babies when they were hungry. That might be at home, at a restaurant, or in a grocery store or mall. Sometimes it was while we were driving somewhere and I had to pull over to nurse them. You do what you have to do for your child. Not for anyone else. In that moment when you have a baby, nothing else matters or should matter. You change diapers on a park bench, you leave a grocery check-out line and your full shopping cart to rush your toddler to the potty, you nurse wherever you are whenever that baby is hungry. And you NEVER allow a stranger to make you feel bad for it. It's not their life. It's yours and your baby's.

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  42. People dont mind seeing breast on tv, in a magazine, or at the beach,What I dont want to see is a man with his pants showing his crack or his underwear, Breast feeding is very natural if you dont want to see it or think its terrible dont look or stay away from people that are feeding,

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  43. My boobs provide complete sustenance for my baby. Once they were objects I to be covered and hidden, now they keep the love of my life alive, its kind of difficult to be ashamed of that. I am completely responsible for his growth and development, I feel like a super hero. Women are born with a million eggs, and men-bless their hearts, contribute two minutes of activity in order to produce these wonderful human beings. While women's bodies go into overdrive to turn something microscopic and single celled into a living breathing squalling little person, and then after that we have the power to give them our anti-bodies, immunity, and vitamins by producing breast milk. All through pregnancy, and the first six months of life our baby's need no one else. I feel like a freaking super hero.

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  44. I nursed my daughter while grocery shopping in Wal-Mart. No one said a word of it besides that how they were amazed a young mother breastfeeding and it what's best for the baby. There are good people in my little town. GO BREASTFEEDING! IN PUBLIC AND HOME!

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  45. While I understand the importance of breastfeeding, I think many young women lack common sense and are not modest enough. The women in my family used blankets and nursing shawls when they had to nurse in public so that their nipples were not exposed, or they would find a lactation area (and more and more shopping malls and other public places are providing them) or go to their cars. And even if they were at a gathering with friends or family, they'd go to a private room if men were present - since even a male relative could be uncomfortable seeing the bare breast of a woman who is not his wife. My own DH didn't want to see his SIL - my sister - breastfeeding. Also, I thought that breastfeeding was supposed to be a special, bonding moment between mother and child. If that's the case, then why wouldn't you want to go to a quiet, private area to breastfeed, instead of doing it while surrounded by strangers, or in a crowd of friends and family? I don't get it. Bottom line - you can have common sense and be modest in breastfeeding, but some mothers think only of themselves and their and their child, and don't understand that they make others uncomfortable and so use no modesty.

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  46. I have a question that may sound dumb - but when you breastfeed, don't you have to clean your breast first? If so, then how can you just "whip it out" and feed your child? Wouldn't you have to go to a private area to wash first before your child latches onto your breast?

    I thought of this question because I live in Texas, where it gets very hot during the summer. I wear mostly cotton bras when it's very hot, but I can still get sweaty breasts. Do breastfeeding moms even think that they are exposing their infants to their sweat? I think being clean before breastfeeding is a good reason why you should be modest and go to a private area to feed - even if it's to your car - so you can wipe off your sweat first. It sounds inconvenient, but face it - when you have a child, life is not going to be as convenient as it was when you didn't have a child.

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  47. This is f...king hysterical. Breasts were created to feed a baby. As long as it is done a little discreetly and the boob isn' t all hanging out i see no problem with this. First of all, for all the "offended" idiots, why the hell are you staring at a woman feeding her baby? Pigs. Get over yourselves.

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  48. let me say this first: to anyone who this offends......i don't care. if you are a mom AND breastfeeding in a public place or not, the place is not an issue. the mother needs to feel comfortable WHEREVER she feels comfortable, not wherever the public feels comfortable. when the mother is comfortable the baby is more comfortable. IF YOU FEED IN PUBLIC, THIS DOES NOT MAKE YOU TRASHY, THIS MAKES YOU A MOTHER WHO HAS CHOSEN TO NURTURE AND FEED YOUR CHILD IN PUBLIC. Being a straight male, breasts are not a SEX organ, yes they are fun to play with when you are having sex but they are used to FEED a child if that is the chosen method that a mother makes to feed her child. (So in a sense they are a helping REPRODUCTIVE organ). So to all you mothers out there who choose to feed their child breast milk, and to those who choose to feed in public hats off to you both.
    thank you
    Joe K.

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  49. Why don't we do an ad campaign that shows the mom covering the baby with the slogan..."geez, it's kind of hard to breathe under this blanket when I'm eating" and under it "how'd you like your meal...covered or uncovered?" Since the dawn of man/woman, breastfeeding had been how babies receive their nutrients until they can eat solids...hypocrites of non-breastfeeding and saying it is indecent need to focus on more relevant issues that are in the media/public eye!

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  50. Good for you Mama Bean! I support you 100% 21 too young? I'm pretty sure a generation or two ago 21 was average as people married young, and before the formula boom, everyone breastfeed, even if you were 15, does that make your child less worthy of the best nutrition? Some people have the most uneducated responses. If I were you I would have a hardy laugh at just how ill thought out people's comments are. If you are going to argue a point, have at least a weak argument at minimum, not just a string of words that make you feel important. goodness.

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    1. What is so weak about asking women to be discreet and modest when they breastfeed - which means trying to go to a private place as much as possible, using nursing shawls, and basically just planning ahead when you and your child will be out in public around the time that your child may be hungry?

      Modesty (and/or preparing bottles before leaving home) worked for mothers a generation or two ago, so why can't it work now? I see no reason why anyone should have to see a woman's bare breast in a public place, whether a baby is attached to that breast or not. If you can't breastfeed in public without uncovering your breast and drawing attention to yourself, then please show some consideration for others and respect for yourself, and avoid breastfeeding in public.

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    2. modesty?.......what are women in this country going to start covering their faces now?

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  51. Our society this days is way behind trying to understand what is moral or immoral , appropriated or pervert. breastfeeding a baby is the most normal and common act of love and care for humans. We are the only ones that don't see it like that the rest of the world does it. I guess we have to much pornography and fantasy in our medias too bad for our new generation to understand that, is normal been naked in the street but not breastfeed your baby. Come on Yankees let’s wake up.

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  52. I never understood how people think something so maternal is wrong. Also, what does age have to do with it. Age should not be a decision to breastfeed or not.

    This is from an adult male with 2 kids of his own and remembers how I & my wife where looked at when she would breastfeed in public.

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  53. Mama Bean, I am 40 years old and you are my hero! To all the people who support breastfeeding but only if you "cover up." What if you have a baby who, like mine, literally refused to nurse with anything covering his face. Breastfeeding is not easy. So how about just not looking if it bothers you. We need to support moms as much as possible. They are the ones holding a 10 or 15 pound weight while trying to eat or visit a zoo. They are the ones who get up at night and whose lives revolve around the constant need of someone else. They are the ones who statistically are contributing to a stronger society by adding people to it who, according to research, will be healthier from breast milk. So how about the rest of us get over ourselves and do something to support these ladies.

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  54. Every blanket makes high temps and a sauna atmosphere? That's ridiculous. Shop for a new cover and respect your fellow citizens. I don't want my young pre-teen son watching grown women popping their boobs out at the next table while we are also trying to enjoy a meal. A lot of this Moms are more on a power trip to whip out their breasts than to support the act of breastfeeding. As for it not being sexual, good luck with changing society on that.

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    1. Then teach your pre-teen son a little manners and ask him to turn his head and stop staring! Or, you know explain how that woman is breast feeding her child, which is the natural way to feed a baby and what breasts are actually for. Perhaps then your son will not grow up to be the ass that thinks a woman feeding her baby is something sexual.

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  55. I applaud you. Expecting my first grandchild from my first child who I requested a professional photo of myself breastfeeding her ( while fully clothed with a large sweater ,and was told " we don't do photos like that here".1989.Wrong words to the wrong person. I still have my response from the president of the company ,and I still have my photograph.

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  56. First I was using a cover to breastfeed my son but then he started refusing to eat when the cover was up. So I just started feeding him without a cover. If you don't like looking don't look. It's natural and you can't see much anyway.
    And to address some of the comments here - like planning ahead so you don't have to breastfeed in public... my son wanted to be fed every 1.5 to 2 hours, or sleep for 4 hours... I would not be able to leave the house at all if I could not breastfeed in public. Food shopping was easy but all other stores are far away from us.
    I was pumping when at work but I would not take milk with me on trips out of the house when I was not working - a) I would make less milk for him if not feeding him/pumping, b) I needed to produce a lot of milk because he was a very hungry baby, c) if you are going to ask why I didn't pump just before leaving to have milk with me?? because I fed him just before stepping out of the house and I would not have enough milk to pump and also it took me about an hour to pump enough milk for one feeding...
    And yes, I breastfed in a bathroom stall - it was a nasty experience for me and I'm never ever going to do it again. The smell there made me sick. But we were in a bed bath and beyond and I didn't want to feed him in a store. It was freezing outside and an hour to get home.

    So Grow up!!

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  57. I breast fed 2 boys and it was a great experience however my oldest hated to be under a blanket and would cry. I still found a way to be Deseret. I'm not one that likes to have small children looking at me asking their mom what the heck I am doing. Then their mom has to right then and there explain. I did not cover up every time because in the summer when it is hot your poor baby sweats. Would you like to sweat while your eating? No did not think so. There are ways to feed your child without pulling your entire breast out and showing it to the world. If you like that kind of attention then go for it but I do not. I think breast feeding is very important to your child's health and should be a more common practice. Our society is so strange anymore. The pioneers didn't bottle feed. As a matter of fact if one mom did not have enough milk for her child a neighbor would help out. It is natural people!! Get over it! It is unnatural to feed your baby processed very expensive formula that probably one day will cause some kind of illness like everything else.

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  58. I haven't read many of the comments, the article caught my attention. How stupid, vapid, supercilious, witless and or laughable do people need to become before somebody calls BS on them? I am a man, if men were able to breastfeed we would not even be having this idiotic debate. My two daughters got my wife's boob whenever, where-ever they fussed or cried. Nobody arrested us, nobody died, and the girls both now have PhD's and fabulous careers. But then, we live in California.

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  59. Why is the country so scared of boobies?!?! LOL

    It's just part of life, very natural...seriously the religious right, the zealots and the ignorant need to go and go now. Find a cave, take all your friends and move in - the rest of America doesn't want you anymore.

    As a Dad I also took to changing dirty diapers on tables at restaurants that had changing stations ONLY in the women's bathrooms. Got thrown out of one place to a mild round of applause from several tables. One of whom asked for their check for their drinks and appetizers as we left and said they were going to a more open minded place to eat.

    This country needs to focus this kind of energy on our REAL problems, like our $20 trillion debt, our 12% unemployment, our mid 50s crowd who cannot find work but are also no longer counted as unemployed, our crumbling education system, etc. etc. Stressing over feeding children in public is really a non-issue!!

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  60. Women have been breast feeding since... well since the beginning! Our generation looks at it as what? Unnatural and indecent? We are not objects and we deserve respect for making the best decisions for our children. My point, "our" children. If a mother choose not to breast feed that's great too, it's what works for her. I certainly wont look at her with scorn and disgust, label and judge her for it. Be tolerable and accepting of our differences because we are all beautiful and shouldn't be ashamed by what society proclaims us as. We define society, society doesn't define us. I'm with you Mama Bean!

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  61. I agree with you mgrace58. There are so many benefits by breast feeding for both mother and child. Here is an article about them. Maybe if people weren't so ignorant they would not mind seeing a mother breast feeding.

    http://www.womenshealth.gov/breastfeeding/why-breastfeeding-is-important/

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  62. Breast Feeding supporter 100% - that's what they're for!!

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  63. breastfeeding is as old as time. it's natural, healthy and portable. I breastfeed both of my sons and did so in public when needed. I even carried a thin blanket to throw over my shoulder so that it "tented" down my sons back. I would never have thought of feeding my children in a bathroom YUCK! but I also think that if your child is old enough to let you know they don't want to be covered when out in public.. then maybe they are too old to breastfeed? I did not read in any "cover yourself" comment that one should wrap the babies head or cover the face. breast milk is a bodily fluid and should be treated as such. if there are drips or your baby returns some unwanted amounts it should be cleaned properly. there will always be pro and against no matter what the subject. Good Luck and blessings to all Mothers.. breast feeders or not.

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  64. If you have no guts and know that you are WRONG, you sign in as anonymous. If you realize that you are correct and you support normal life activities, you sign in as yourself.

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  65. So, saying "I support breastfeeding but don't need to see it" is bad? I support bowel movements but don't need to see them....I could go on. While I agree with sitting on a toilet in a public (or even private) restroom isn't the best alternative for public breastfeeding, I can't understand the arguments that the baby is suffocating if it is covered by a light blanket or towel. First of all, the first 9 mos of a baby's life is spent in a dark, wet, womb. They've also shown that babies are comforted by being wrapped tightly. I don't think a baby would be too inconvenienced by a light cloth draped over it that keeps the breast from public eye. For those that say their child objects, how old is that child? I doubt babies care as long as they're being feed. If a child is old enough to have a preference, perhaps breastfeeding that child should remain at home. No one is infringing on ANYONE's rights by requesting a light covering. Breastfeeding Mom's who don't want to cover or at least remove themselves to a less public place are actually infringing on the rights of the other patrons. Breastfeeding isn't for ever or for everywhere. What does that say about these few people that they are unwilling to make any adjustments.

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  66. At he is eating with his mouth closed.

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  67. Personally I don't care if a Mom breast feeds in public, covered or not. I understand the purpose of the female breast is feed their child. I do find it funny that girls are allowed out of there houses wearing hardly anything, while their moms aren't allowed to breast feed in public with out someone saying something. If you have a problem with a mom feeding her child, you should also have a problem with a 12-18 year old girl walking through the mall in a bikini top and daisy duke shorts. Where did the morals of America go. Why do we let our sons walk the streets with their pants around their knees, and our little girls walk around in hardly anything. Before you judge someone else, YOU BETTER LOOK AT YOURSELF FIRST.

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  68. Being a mother of five who breastfed everyone of my children, I applaud first the two male students who created this project and second the young mothers brave enough to take a stand and bare it all for the love of her child :) breast feeding is beautiful, the intended purpose of our breasts bestowed to us by god is for the purpose of feeding our children, society has become over sexualized and pervert far to many issues regarding the human body.

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  69. A Mans penis is meant for peeing but we don't do it for all to see!!

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    1. Pissing is a sanitation issue, that's why we don't do it for all to see, that's what the bathroom is for, to keep the rest of the world clean. Eating and feeding your baby is not and has no place in bathrooms. Yea, why don't you go eat your dinner where people piss and take a dump. Smell that fermented urine and partially digested chicken salad? Fragrant huh? If you like sitting in a public bathroom for longer than you need to , you go ahead and sit in there for fun, but making a mom and her baby endure that, when they're not hurting anyone... F-that. I'm a man, and I would not want that for my significant other or child. If men were the ones breast feeding, I would NOT feel the need to hide my nipples to feed my baby, and I would not go into a crapper stall to do it either. F-That, I don't like the smell of $hit or piss. Again, that's just me. If you like it, you do it, it won't bother me if you filter that bathroom air with your respiratory system LOL. Idiots...

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  70. Who cares if a mom wants to breast feed her baby? Leave them alone. They aren't hurting anyone. If you don't want to see it, don't look at it. If the mom doesn't want some pervert looking at her, then she shouldn't do it. If she doesn't care, then leave her be so she can feed her hungry baby.

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